Online Relationships

Discussion in 'Every Day Debating' started by imagine99, Jul 15, 2005.

  1. Akkarin

    Akkarin Black High Lord

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    That doesn't even make sense. What I asked was how does YOUR partener protect YOU now?
     
  2. AcrobaticHippo

    AcrobaticHippo Determined

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    She misinterpreted the question eh.

    Anyway, I don't think relationships can be really considered "relationships" when they're in the online phase. No, don't ask me to explain why, I've said everything in my previous posts, so go back and read 'em.
     
  3. Elynnya

    Elynnya Elynnya

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    Thats what you asked. :)
    He cares for me, he gives me advice etc.
     
  4. Adina

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    Just a thought Jnanee. I'd be inclined to agree with you, however there's one thing that's bothering me. Had the two in question been in the flesh with oneanother in times past and are 'settling' for an online relationship (for a time), can it be considered a relationship then?

    Also, I have thought about the many definitions of 'relationship'. Clearly, this means to share relations with another. In todays day and age, it means many a things.
    If you devote yourself wholly to one person, and they devote themselves wholly to you, would it be considered a relationship even if only based online for whatever reasons?
     
  5. AcrobaticHippo

    AcrobaticHippo Determined

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    Oh, I'm sorry for being unclear in my previous post. I meant that it wouldn't really be considered a proper relationship yet if it's STILL in the online phase and the guy and girl in question haven't met each other yet. Once they meet, they'll be able to see how compatible they are, to see if they can stand the quirks and bad habits of their prospective partners :)D) and if they can, then yeah, you have met with the person before and determine that you two are compatible, if they want to carry an online relationship for a while after that, it's still called a successful relationship. It's kinda weird to think that they won't work if your still having an online relationship after you've met, I mean, everything's been sorted out once they met up, imagine a wife who wants to keep in touch with her husband when he goes overseas.


    That's a very good question :) Hmmm, I guess that when a guy and a girl meet each other online, they just get to know each other. Sure, there's love, but I guess it's only cemented when they meet up and find whether they can get along with the partner and his/her bad habits (lol) I think it's ideal to start taking things seriously from that point.

    So, I guess it's still a relationship, but a budding one. It's a fledgling, there's more to come, to cement their love for each other.

    (Sorry if I gave a crap answer :D)
     
  6. Adina

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    No Jnanee, that was a great answer. Thanks so much for taking the time to reply :)

    To be honest, I feel really good about your answer!
     
  7. AcrobaticHippo

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    lol, your welcome, now you don't have to reply to my PM :D I was worried about whether I made sense :D
     
  8. silas

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    the good thing about on line relation ship is your not face to face and you can lay the card out on the table with out being enbaresed for examp your gay or you have some sort of fetish face to face you may not have the curage to bring it up but by typing you never have to look in a persons eyes and say somthing like i like to were wemens underwere
     
  9. Rosemary

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    I have made many friends over the internet from all over the world. Some are just a chat about how our countries are different and what we do over a weekend.

    Then there are friends that you get closer to, perhaps finding that you have the same interests. It is so easy to become 'involved' over the internet. Quite often I find myself wishing that I lived in another country so that I could meet that special person and they would like to meet me as well. On the internet it is easy to feel wanted, to have so much in common and would like to share more with them. It is so easy to fantasise about sharing your life, of being together. Basically impossible if funds are extremely limited. What is known as 'cyber sex' can be extremely exciting but that is usually all it will every be.
    So, I enjoy these friendships as much as I can and while I can.
     
  10. Running Wolf

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    I think a relationship online will work.
    So A Relationship, but love? To love someone you met online you have to meet him, I think.
    I have found two friends online, really good friends. I can talk with them about things I sometimes can't talk with my friends who are around me.
    But well yes, it's all based on the honesty of every participant.
    My two online friends and me, we planed a meeting somwhere between our countries, but it didn#t work because we didn't found a time when everyone could go away from home. But I'm sure, it will work next time!
    I think our Relationship will last long. As long as everyone has time enough to turn on the pc.
    Relationships online are possible, when they depend on honesty.
    But to be sure that you love someone, I think you have to meet him/her first.
     
  11. Eva Divine

    Eva Divine Oracle of Divinity

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    For the sensitive hearts, AVOID online relationships.
    True, it may work but there will always be the negative and the positive..ask me about online relationship and I will tell you: What if the other was lying to you from the begining? What if he or she made promises and had you walk past many real relationships offline that may have done your happiness?...This girl love that guy for a year and half....she belived in him and his promises for a future life together only to be disgraced at the end..."No...we cannot be together" were his final words. *sigh*

    Anyway...it is hard sometimes....that you cannot touch that person....leaving miles away....and it may take a very very long periode before you meet him/her and the result as I said maybe negative or positive..

    The good thing about that..is that you get to know that person...deeply...the one behind the words...
     
  12. am.dk

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    ^its sad to here that your online relationship dident worked out as you hoped for eva divine,
    but thise things about lies and no being together enyway also habbens al the time in the presents world.disapointments habbents and sometimes we just get lucky.
    but i must admit that i have never tryed this online thing thoug.

    hope you get over it sune eva divine. :)
     
  13. Eva Divine

    Eva Divine Oracle of Divinity

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    *hugs warmly* Thank you..Its been a year and couple months now and still cant since I still see the guy around but am sure I will :)

    At the end...online relationship aree a risk to take as well as offline...time is the only who can givee you your final answer if that person is destinied to be with you or not ^.^

    There cant be happiness without sadness...and Vice Versa
     
  14. Elynnya

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    hey this is cameron.

    If any of you want to know what happened to elynnya and ilya (firesnake) she broke up with him in december because he couldnt afford to fly over and see her.

    I went out with her in february, and we were going out until just after my birthday on the 28th of november.

    Yes, i live 15 mins away from her, guess why we broke up tho?

    she met a guy online, who lives in new south wales, they met in person while we were up in qld for schoolies after finishing year 12 together.

    anyways they had sex, and she thinks she loves him (he was using her for a root, and did atleast 5 other girls up there that week). Now just 3 weeks after it happened she has moved on to an online relationship with one of his friends, named mike. They now stay up until up to 6am on the game world of warcraft. yup.

    she really isnt a nice person, tbqh. and has more problems than i can poke a stick at.
     
  15. Confessor

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    To me an online relationship well....you need to be very carefule if you want to have these. I say that if you meet a person online whether it be male or female you first must get to know them. You should try to visit them in real life a few times as well to see what they are Really like. Sometimes people might just make up lies about themselves just to get what they want which in some cases is sexual intercourse. Sometimes it isn't. Finding a decent person in this world is hard enough and let me tell you some of people you meet aren't the angels either. Some of their past histories are bad and rather than go into details I'm sure some of you know what I am referring too. All in all just be careful. Personally seeing a person you like in person is all you need and from their the two of you can decide what is best for the both of you.
     
  16. Rock Mouth

    Rock Mouth Speaker for the People

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    I think that if the person is honest, you are not just judging by if they are hot or not.
     
  17. volksmenner

    volksmenner practitioner of æsthetics

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    in regard to romantic online relationships...

    to speak eloquently of those whom cupid's digital arrow doth discover, “the folly of all follies is to be love sick for a shadow.” (tennyson). however, online relationships should not afford such eloquence, therefore to speak colloquially and yes affordably of those hopelessly hopeless, "stupid, stupid and thrice cursed stupid."
     
  18. Hatter Madigan

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    "He was deeply in love. When she spoke, he thought he heard bells, as if she were a garbage truck backing up."