Arya, Sansa, and Catelyn Stark are three of the most dominating female figures in ASoIaF - even if most people think that Sansa/Cat aren't as interesting as Arya is. I've noticed that many people love Arya (I'm among them, I admit), but the truth of the matter is that she's a preteen girl killing people in her way, and is basically a murderer. Sansa, the sweet girl, is regarded to be boring, stupid, and naive, although many people hold that she's improving in AFFC. Yet should we meet either in real life, I'm fairly sure that most people would prefer Sansa over Arya. Yes, I realize that this is a fictional series, and that what's undesirable IRL is considered "cool" in fiction. Yet people still draw the line at certain characters - everyone hates Cersei, for example, and quite a few dislike Jaime. And 95% of ASoIaF fans love Ned, although he's an honorable and naive man - what we'd consider a grown-up, male version of a goody-goody Sansa. So what is it about Arya that we adore her, and what is it about Sansa that many dislike her? And Catelyn Stark - quite a few people despise her for her cold treatment of Jon Snow, her many errors in her part in the war, and hold her to be a misguided character. Yet Catelyn is only a mother trying her best to protect her children, and even her treatment of Jon Snow could be considered to be protection. Note that I do not in any way approve of how she treated Jon, but there are reasons. Yes, what she did to Jon was cruel and unkind, but try and think about it from her point of view. Many lords of Westeros fathered bastards, but none brought them home to a trueborn, lawfully wedded wife. For those who raise the R + L = J argument and say that she has no right to treat Jon that way if Ned wasn't even unfaithful to her, note that she has no idea about that as well. As far as she knows, Ned rode to Dorne and came back with a child that he let people think was his. (Will post more on Cat later, I kinda have a headache right now.) Mostly hoping for a friendly character debate on these three Starks. There hasn't been enough discussion in this section lately.